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When is the best time to learn how to focus on yourself?

My friends always tell me that I need to learn how to focus on myself more. This is because I always put the needs of others before my own. Personally, I do not feel the need to change because I can still develop myself while prioritizing the needs of others. Am I right? Is there a need to change yourself when you care too much about others and how can I tell when the best time is to learn how to focus on yourself more and worry less about others?

Samantha Stevenson

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Jodi Brooks on April 4, 2018

I was in the same situation a few years ago. My mother started telling me that I should learn how to focus on me more and stop putting my needs second to others. Initially, I did not think to focus on developing myself was a priority because I was content with how things were going in my life. However, a few months down the line, I started feeling drained by other people’s demands, and I felt like I barely had any time for myself. I started resenting everything I was doing to help others, and it was really bad for me because I was always in a bad mood. This was when I decided to take some time and focus on my own needs. Therefore, the answer to your question is yes. There are times when you will need to change you and learn how to focus on you without feeling guilty. There are a number of signs that can tell you that you need to focus on yourself more. They include:

  • Excess fatigue: If you are stretching yourself too thin to meet other people’s needs, this is a sign that you need to take a break and focus on yourself. It is not wrong to help other people, but when you are compromising your health to do it, it is.
  • Resentment: If you are feeling bad about helping people or you feel like they are taking advantage of you, it is time for you to take a step back and take care of yourself before you start helping other people.
  • Little Time to Yourself: If you never have time to do things you enjoy doing because you are doing everything everyone else wants you to do, it is time for you to take a break and start doing some things you enjoy.
  • Lack of excitement: Helping others should bring you a lot of joy. You should not feel like you are doing it by force or just because you have to do it. If there is no excitement from what you are doing, this is a sign that you are not doing it for the right reasons or you simply need to focus on something else.
  • Not saying NO. If you are constantly saying yes to everyone who asks you to do something, this is a sign that you need to focus on yourself more. Be brave to say no to something when you do not feel like doing it, or you cannot do it because of circumstances.

Kyle Mckinney2 years ago

Trying to change yourself is not selfish. The reason why you feel like there is no problem in ignoring your personal needs is probably that you feel that it is selfish to focus on yourself. On the contrary, focusing on yourself is one of the most selfless things you can do in life. It is selfless because by making yourself better, you are more capable of helping others. Therefore, do not feel like you are selfish when you go to the spa or on a meditation trip on your own. You need to focus on keeping yourself healthy and away from all the negative influences around you. Focusing on yourself more doesn’t mean that you will not be able to focus on others. You can do both. Therefore, even in your quest to be of help to others, be careful not to forget yourself in the process. It will really do you a lot of good.

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